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Gnome like life

I somehow got stuck writing this text about gnome like life in the modern world. I guess that the elderly often is gnome like, but myself am just 47. http://learntalents.blogspot.com/2018/09/gnomes-or-more-likelily-doing-things-in.html

Why we meet different social fates

All people have social eye and that is why they treat different people differently and also the same person in different situations differently. They kind of tend to discuss so with the person's strategy of life: they either tune to the same type of areas of life in their repertuaire, or they comment on the strong (admiration, polite ways) or weak (attacks, pity) sides of the other person's strategy of life or discuss with such strategy by giving advices by sharing their experience of life, wisdom of life and things they have read.
People also themselves cause different results by their actions: one assuming a too big role creates disasters to which others react negatively, and one assuming a too little role leaves things not taken care of and the less skilled in a ruling position.
Such features are dependent on the person oneself and it makes no sense to reach for the qualities of others, because such would demand a different level of skill which presently is not (yet?) possible. By understanding what one's own social life's dynamics are like, one can reach for better courses for oneself, but often those are not suited as advices for others. Among people of the same profession or the like it is often possible share advices, likewise to help the ones with much less wisdom of life and the much more stupid.

War against whom

The military serivce allows a country an army when needed and so it helps the country to defend itself. Without an army the country would propably not be convincing and would so end up in a military confrontation much more often and be a subject of wrongdoings. But once a country has an army, it typically can count on other tactics too. Even if there is a shift in who is in power, there is not necessarily need for war if the new power is ok for the people. Army is for defence against poor living conditions, against invaders whose rule would bring too poor life for the people. Those new rulers who change things toward better, need not be warred against but merely defend independency and rights of the people by more peaceful means.

The need for war like behaviour

If one gets squeezed, one needs the ability to defend one's personal space, one's individuality. Individuality does not mean the right to boss others around. Instead it means the right to choose about one's own life as far as one does not unfairly disturb others.
Kids are bossed around by their parents and other kids plus school teachers and other adults. So they feel dearly the need to defend. So they copy from soldiers, which is just healthy as far as those soldiers have a good healthy kind of life and a good healthy kind of strategy in the society and in the world.
As adults some people have not yet found the right balance between giving in and adapting to situtions and to the needs of different arrangements and the need for personal freedom. Typically that is a result of maliciousness which makes some of their actions and intentions unacceptable and so if they stick to those, they are left with less room for themselves, so their everyday life does not go so well. If they would invest in morally ok ways to express themselves, they would not bother others so much. For example if one sits at home and eats, one is no nuisance to others. Then with stomach full can one be in a quite good mood and get along with others. Like that if one oneself takes care of one's personal needs and doies not tie them to some social tangle, it is quite easy for one to get along with othefrs and the society and find the right border between personal space and the affairs in which others need to be taken into account.
With healthy mind and spirit one is capable of defending oneself and the rights of people in a society, but generally gets along with others without needing to fight, much less to adapt to arrangements (often one's own arrangements and views)at the expence of one's personal needs or common sense to the extend that one feels malicious.

What is according to justice in social situations

Needs matter. If someone dearly needs something and another one not, it is likely that the one who very much needs it ought to get it, for example for a cheap price if it is something that the other one owns. But of course with lies and acting it is a different things: they do not give any extra priviledges to the one who acts or lies.

Justice does not mean treating all the same way. Instead it means something like giving wage like positive feedback for good deeds and nice responsible behaviour and giving punishment like negative feedback for unmoral attacks and other unmoral ways.
So in a social situation, if the other one is very unmoral in one's behaviour, it is according to justice to attack such person and to not to give him or her as much rights as others who are more moral in that occasion.
Once again lies and acting are not any grounds for giving priviledges or punishing wrong person.

How to cure underachievement away

Many who feel stupid or underachieving, spend all their time pretending to make sense, to be well achieving, to look rational and intelligent. Stop that! Such acting takes all your attention, so it prevents you from achievements. Instead do your best in ordinary everyday ways. That way you will really have some skills to show and across time you will develop greatly by just doing the things that you surely can and by attempting your very best at learning new things of value.

Why social strategy/friendlyness matters

If you hit someone in th ehead by a stool, they are likely to think that their life depends on being enemies with you. So they tend to behave in a cumbersome uncooperative way from then on. But if you on the other hand ofeer a piece of cake and go on your own way without trying to poison anyone by that cake, they are likely to be casually friendly.

The Origin of Good and Evil

Joe had been sitting too much indoors. His head felt dizzy. He put the mug in his hand to the table and started toward the door. Someone had left an office chair in the middle of the road there. He tried to clumsily avoid it but did not fully succeed. He hit his thigh nastily on the edge of the chair. “What the hell!” He send angrily the office chair flying along the floor. It collided with someone coming in. “You bastard! Don’t do that again.” Too much time indoors without exercise makes the head dizzy, movements clumsy and leaves the person feeling forceless and weak, becomes so easy to agitate in a frustrated fury. Also errors become many and successes few and not noteworthy. Consequently human relationships become a mess.
Jack had been outdoors in the garden doing varied physical work together with other employees. His eyes were sharp and reactions quick. With ease he moved around the office chair which was still lying in the middle of the doorway, and tried to brighten the social atmosphere. “Hi guys, it a fine weather, why don’t you try drinking your coffee outside? My pals there also could have use for a helping hand.” Always, just always!, remember to look at a tree while you think!

Social skills and introspektion

I used to ponder a lot about social relationships, about the intentions of different people and about the possibilities in each human encounter. It wasn’t of much use but then I learned: I learned how I can make instantaneous observations that tell me a lot about each human relationship. The most important lesson is t not to put to words what I have observed but to keep it as undisturbed sensory perceptions instead. Each human being has one’s own style which ne follows all the time, and sensed impressions tell us just that. It is all that we can get from a human being kind of rule of the individual’s behavior of all sides of one’s life. That’s it!

I also used t ponder a lot about myself about my life my character my abilities my social relationships etc. Then I learned that it is not which wrds I find to try to describe or classify myself. It is instead how I feel each moment in each kind of situation of life, that tells me what I am like what I like what suits me and what I ought to avoid. My possibilities of improvement are just where I feel inspirited and my dead ends are just where I feel lousy. There is nothing special to me and my life no words noo theories just the sensations that I feel each moment…

S9ome social skills that can get you out of trouble

Social contacts always have two sides: you and the others. If yu choose one deed, you get one kind of feedback, but if you choose another you get other kind of feedback. The general principle by which you get treated is that you get a like thing in return but this is a very wide thing referring to your observed strategy of life. So if others estimate you to be a trustworthy friendly kind of fellow you are likely to achieve a friendly chat. But if others see that you might be untrustworthy and do nasty things to undeserving others you are likely to get threatened. So your level of moral is seen and taken into account: kind of what kind of person is good to have around or not. Most people do have social eye, so what you do generally in your life, what might happen but what is not here and now does still affect enormously how you get treated. All do not notice everything but they do notice a lot, most notice even things that you suppose to be impossible for anyone to notice. So be honest toward yourself in determining what KIND OF FEEDBACK YOU HAVE DESERVED you are likely to ACHIEVE JUST THAT.
So some people end up in a mess all the time. There are some advices that could cure their lives: The first one is to be fair toward all. You are allowed to be selfish but not malicious. Behaviour that is understandable goes accepted and unharmed but behavior that is out of the question because of being too harmful does not. For you to see positive alternatives it is important to relax your neck and your back and to look at an ordinary healthy tree (not an apple tree since it has been cut) while you ponder, since that widens your observational skills: you are not as stuck to habit and can see the wide landscape instead of just your immediate actions.
Healthy natural ways of living bring you furthest in the world. Everything else is just build upon them. So observe where you do things healthily and keep to that. Observe also which sides are unnatural or go ashtray and seek to drop them away. That way you can achieve much strength and see to the real dynamics of social life and of the world at large.

The strongest choise

the wisest choise is to be strong yourself, to have a good strategy of life, to be a member of a strong group which too have a good strategy, which in turn is a member of a bigger strong group with a good strategy and so on up to the level of the whole world.

Aggression is needed

Humans have two types of feelings:
Positive feelings like love, happiness, joy, liking etc. bring us toward the things that we want to our lives. Those things answer to our needs and to the needs of the society and the living environment, keeping them healthy and strong.
Negative feelings like hate, disgust, suffering, sorrow etc. repel harmful things away from our lives. Typically these are just big nasty things like work, culture, mum’s nasty opinions, our own firmly stuck habits, etc. which are very difficult to change – still it is of no use if we misdirect the anger to some other goal that does not deserve it, here was the correction needed, not there!
Both types of action are needed and both work well only if we recognize right what is it that we wanna avoid or to reach for and if we avoid the error of tunnel-sightedness and use a holistic view of the world and of life as a whole instead.
The world is full of phenomena, some we like (they are in some way useful to us) and some we hate (they are in some way harmful to us IF we have recognized right the cause of the feeling). We just have to resist the harmful, otherwise we will be shortly overrun, maybe even killed. And we just have to cultivate the good things, otherwise we will have nothing to live on and we will starve to death.
It demands lots of honesty toward yourself to notice what is what in life but it is well worth the effort!

If someone demands trust

If things really are so, that can be tested and probably proven (as long as you are not sabotaging things yourself).
But if they just lie, then they build everything on trust only.

If you have enemies

Try to count on healthily responsible behavior yourself, that way true justice i.e. the good of the group is for you.
And allow the behavior of your enemies as far as it is healthily responsible toward the group and the world at large, since that way you look fair and keep the group in good order.

If under pressure by others

Sometimes you cannot choose but others can and they still have an opinion about you. So if you need to obey stronger or wiser ones, do it in healthy ways and you will gain more respect and maybe even make pals since people like to see choices that are good for themselves too. Similarly you can suggest a healthy version of some choice that they have made: maybe it would bring them fairly deserved better position, a brighter future for them – and consequently for you too!

Health is the wisest course to take

Healthy is strong and well functioning. Whenever you make some choice, try what you could gain by making a healthy kind of version of the same thing. If there is some side of the thing still lacking, try if that too could be cured by making that side healthier. Health is the strangest choice tested by evolution or by god’s wisdom, so typically it really makes things work out well. You can safeguard also the health of arrangements and the health of the state of the world at large; generally that makes you gain fairly deserved social position that you can use in healthy ways.

Benefit a lot, lose only a little

Wise choices mean that you choose something better than what would happen without any choice, since iuf you choose worse you lose something of worth without there being any point in that and if you do only as well as otherwise you have needlessly spent your forces.
So every time try to benefit as much as you can and lose as little as you can. Both of these goals matter. And also those things which are more difficult to notice matter as well. The wisest choise is one which takes EVERYTHING FULLY INTO ACCOUNT and gains so all that there is to gain and loses nothing.
The usual problem in this is to be too short-sighted: often people grasp only the immediate gain in sight and disregard all the other consequences that they have to bear as well but that are more difficult to notice. A wise person uses a holistic view of the world, which is easy if you are relaxed in a lively way and use landscape like views in thinking, so one can take all things into account in an easy way and never lose sight of the future consequences of one’s actions.
Many people still know the instinctual way to count benefits and losses: Each thing has an atmosphere, which is dark for losses and reddish or light for positive states of affairs like a tree bearing fruit. So when they observe something as a seen landscape with atmosphere they almost at once know whether there are many threaths or many gains in that landscape.

Strong and safe

The stronger, the wiser and the more skilled you are and the better position you have, the better you will do in life, so it makes sense to take these things as your values, as your goals. Here position is a complex thing: it means a good position for just you but if somebody else does a better job in safeguarding your own good, a good position for yourself means that they get better positions in the hierargy than you, your own good demands that they are higher than you. This way you can be both under the rule of others and safer than you could be on your own. Generally all kinds of allegiancies are based on this logic: people who are good at caring for the group are beneficial choices for leadership positions.