Why social strategy/friendlyness matters

If you hit someone in th ehead by a stool, they are likely to think that their life depends on being enemies with you. So they tend to behave in a cumbersome uncooperative way from then on. But if you on the other hand ofeer a piece of cake and go on your own way without trying to poison anyone by that cake, they are likely to be casually friendly.

The Origin of Good and Evil

Joe had been sitting too much indoors. His head felt dizzy. He put the mug in his hand to the table and started toward the door. Someone had left an office chair in the middle of the road there. He tried to clumsily avoid it but did not fully succeed. He hit his thigh nastily on the edge of the chair. “What the hell!” He send angrily the office chair flying along the floor. It collided with someone coming in. “You bastard! Don’t do that again.” Too much time indoors without exercise makes the head dizzy, movements clumsy and leaves the person feeling forceless and weak, becomes so easy to agitate in a frustrated fury. Also errors become many and successes few and not noteworthy. Consequently human relationships become a mess.
Jack had been outdoors in the garden doing varied physical work together with other employees. His eyes were sharp and reactions quick. With ease he moved around the office chair which was still lying in the middle of the doorway, and tried to brighten the social atmosphere. “Hi guys, it a fine weather, why don’t you try drinking your coffee outside? My pals there also could have use for a helping hand.” Always, just always!, remember to look at a tree while you think!

Social skills and introspektion

I used to ponder a lot about social relationships, about the intentions of different people and about the possibilities in each human encounter. It wasn’t of much use but then I learned: I learned how I can make instantaneous observations that tell me a lot about each human relationship. The most important lesson is t not to put to words what I have observed but to keep it as undisturbed sensory perceptions instead. Each human being has one’s own style which ne follows all the time, and sensed impressions tell us just that. It is all that we can get from a human being kind of rule of the individual’s behavior of all sides of one’s life. That’s it!

I also used t ponder a lot about myself about my life my character my abilities my social relationships etc. Then I learned that it is not which wrds I find to try to describe or classify myself. It is instead how I feel each moment in each kind of situation of life, that tells me what I am like what I like what suits me and what I ought to avoid. My possibilities of improvement are just where I feel inspirited and my dead ends are just where I feel lousy. There is nothing special to me and my life no words noo theories just the sensations that I feel each moment…

S9ome social skills that can get you out of trouble

Social contacts always have two sides: you and the others. If yu choose one deed, you get one kind of feedback, but if you choose another you get other kind of feedback. The general principle by which you get treated is that you get a like thing in return but this is a very wide thing referring to your observed strategy of life. So if others estimate you to be a trustworthy friendly kind of fellow you are likely to achieve a friendly chat. But if others see that you might be untrustworthy and do nasty things to undeserving others you are likely to get threatened. So your level of moral is seen and taken into account: kind of what kind of person is good to have around or not. Most people do have social eye, so what you do generally in your life, what might happen but what is not here and now does still affect enormously how you get treated. All do not notice everything but they do notice a lot, most notice even things that you suppose to be impossible for anyone to notice. So be honest toward yourself in determining what KIND OF FEEDBACK YOU HAVE DESERVED you are likely to ACHIEVE JUST THAT.
So some people end up in a mess all the time. There are some advices that could cure their lives: The first one is to be fair toward all. You are allowed to be selfish but not malicious. Behaviour that is understandable goes accepted and unharmed but behavior that is out of the question because of being too harmful does not. For you to see positive alternatives it is important to relax your neck and your back and to look at an ordinary healthy tree (not an apple tree since it has been cut) while you ponder, since that widens your observational skills: you are not as stuck to habit and can see the wide landscape instead of just your immediate actions.
Healthy natural ways of living bring you furthest in the world. Everything else is just build upon them. So observe where you do things healthily and keep to that. Observe also which sides are unnatural or go ashtray and seek to drop them away. That way you can achieve much strength and see to the real dynamics of social life and of the world at large.

The strongest choise

the wisest choise is to be strong yourself, to have a good strategy of life, to be a member of a strong group which too have a good strategy, which in turn is a member of a bigger strong group with a good strategy and so on up to the level of the whole world.

Aggression is needed

Humans have two types of feelings:
Positive feelings like love, happiness, joy, liking etc. bring us toward the things that we want to our lives. Those things answer to our needs and to the needs of the society and the living environment, keeping them healthy and strong.
Negative feelings like hate, disgust, suffering, sorrow etc. repel harmful things away from our lives. Typically these are just big nasty things like work, culture, mum’s nasty opinions, our own firmly stuck habits, etc. which are very difficult to change – still it is of no use if we misdirect the anger to some other goal that does not deserve it, here was the correction needed, not there!
Both types of action are needed and both work well only if we recognize right what is it that we wanna avoid or to reach for and if we avoid the error of tunnel-sightedness and use a holistic view of the world and of life as a whole instead.
The world is full of phenomena, some we like (they are in some way useful to us) and some we hate (they are in some way harmful to us IF we have recognized right the cause of the feeling). We just have to resist the harmful, otherwise we will be shortly overrun, maybe even killed. And we just have to cultivate the good things, otherwise we will have nothing to live on and we will starve to death.
It demands lots of honesty toward yourself to notice what is what in life but it is well worth the effort!

If someone demands trust

If things really are so, that can be tested and probably proven (as long as you are not sabotaging things yourself).
But if they just lie, then they build everything on trust only.